I heard someone say recently that "poor inner speech causes all of life's problems"-damn! - it's true - how we talk to ourselves determines our perspective - how we think, see and feel about everything else in our lives.
Now the Bad news is - that is an uncomfortable Truth!
The Good news is - with a little EFFORT we get to change that dialogue - and we can change it starting this moment. No doubt we are usually harder on ourselves than anyone else - and there is always a myriad of legitimate reasons (upbringing, experiences, etc.) - but poor inner speech is like any poor habit - regardless of why they are there - we have to replace them with better one. ATTITUDE and EFFORT are completely in our control.
Unconditional Friendship with yourself is a lofty and worthwhile goal.