We have been conditioned to think in terms of Winning and Losing as a Zero Sum game - whereas if I win - then someone else loses.
We need to elevate our thinking - and personalize the whole concept - whereas if I Win in an area of endeavor - then I Win for Me.
And of course the opposite.
In the nature of the phrase on the gym door - "Winners Train. Losers Complain" would mean I'm not better than you if I train (my Mind and Body) and you don't - I'm better for me. My life and being gets a win - it has nothing to do with you.
And Vice Versa.
Winning requires Effort - Losing doesn't.